You must have respect for the person you are with and vise versa. A relationship without respect is nothing at all.


The only way to start off a relationship is to know that you are responsible for your own happiness therefore you must realize that you are the only one that can make YOU happy. And your significant other is responsible for his or her happiness.

You must remember to do the things that you enjoy doing separately and your significant other must also do the same and once you are together you will be happy because you aren't depending on each other to stay in that joyful place.

What most people believe is that you must do all that you can to make others happy. And the truth is you can never make anyone else happy and it is not your responsibility. We are all responsible for our own happiness.

We can enjoy being with each other but happiness ultimately starts within.


Most people are busy with their everyday lives. So in order to keep your relationship alive and fresh you should always schedule a night or two each week of fun together.

Each person should come up with some type activity to do so it won’t feel like it is the sole responsibility of one person.

Treat your relationship like how you treat your home; you must maintain it in order for it to last a long time.


If you are married. On your next anniversary renew your vows. This is becoming more and more popular.

Retired basketball player Doug Christie and his wife have been renewing their vows every year since they’ve been married and so far they have married 16 times. Each year they take turns with the planning of the wedding.

Mrs. Christie says “If you are busy planning a wedding, you have no time to plan a divorce." Excellent point! Remember why you got married in the first place. Most people don’t get married to get a divorce. Fall in love with each other over and over again.


Send love to your significant other throughout the day. Send your lover a sexy text or email letting them know that you’ve been thinking about them.

Leave sexy notes in places where they will find them.

For example, in the car, in pants pocket, wallet, purse, bathroom mirror etc. This will set the tone for the entire day. Everyone wants to know that they are loved and appreciated.


In a relationship things should be as close to 50/50 as possible. I know there are things that men enjoy doing more than women and vise versa. But no one wants to feel like they are doing everything.

Figure out the best way to split household chores and show your appreciation for each other. A simple thank you every now and then can go a long way.


A relationship is nothing without respect and good communication. Most people aren’t mind readers. So, say what’s on your mind. Preferably in a respectful calm manner.

Most people cannot hear a person when they are screaming at them. Wait until you are in a relaxed environment to express your concerns.

Getting things out in the open is a great way to come to an agreement about a problem or concern before it gets out of control. Hear a person out before you judge.


In order to have a successful relationship, you must focus on what you love about your mate and not on the complaints. If you continue to focus on complaints, you will receive more to complain about. When you focus on what you love about your partner, you will receive more love in the relationship. Remember you get what you focus on.

Zig Ziglar said “Many marriages would be better if the husband and wife clearly understood that they are on the same side."

We are meant to co-create. Know that you are on the same team. You should be two people against the world. Don’t let outside people or negative things influence your relationships. Do the things that feel good to you!

Sending Love and Happiness,


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